Contributed by Dr. Claire Zammit, founder, FemininePower.com
One thing I know for sure is this: the possibilities you sense for who you can become, the life you can create, and the impact you can have with your gifts…are real.
In fact, your destiny is even bigger than you can probably imagine.
And not only am I sure Feminine Power is the key to unlocking this potential… I don't believe you can step into the opportunities in front of you in this moment without it.
From the day I discovered this, I’ve made it my mission to create the tools, training and support women most need to gain direct access to awakening this new Feminine Power operating system.
What is Feminine Power?
When you look up the word “power” in the dictionary, you’ll see it defined as “to do, to act, to accomplish, to make things happen,” and even: “to exert force over others!”
The very way we conceive of power in our world culture at large is a Masculine system sourced from logical, linear, strategic thinking.
This kind of power is valuable and useful for a certain set of things. For anything that is predictable and controllable, anything you can create with a step-by-step plan, the Masculine power system is definitely the way to go!
For the last 50 years, women have been mastering a Masculine system of Power.
The only problem is that the things we’re now most yearning for such as true love, intimacy, connection, belonging, creativity, self expression, aliveness, meaning, contribution, purpose, and a brighter future for generations to come—none of these can be created exclusively with a power system that’s based on control, analysis and logical, linear thinking, nor can it be executed with a step-by-step strategic plan.
Something big and new is waking up in us for the first time in human history, and we’re yearning to realize our higher creative potentials, too—our higher destiny. We want to discover and actualize our gifts in service to something larger than ourselves.
We want to become authentically confident and visible, create loving, growth oriented relationships, discover our purpose, create prosperous career aligned with our values, manifest our desires for fun, adventure and play, awaken spiritually; we want to fully become the women we were born to be!
To do that, we need another system of power—a Feminine system—a system that’s intuitive, creative and magnetic, and which enables us to create those things that can’t be controlled with a step-by-step plan.
When you begin to create from the Feminine system, what you’ll notice right away is that there is more magic in your life.
Things will start to accelerate and there will be a sense of flow. You’ll have more synchronicity, and everything you could possibly need to take your next steps will seem to simply come to you.
From all my years spent working with thousands of women, I’ve discovered a proven 7-step process to awaken your Feminine Power.
Step one—Break Through Your “Inner Glass Ceiling.”
If you're struggling to create anything in the domain of the feminine (those things that are not predictable or controllable such as love, connection, creativity, higher contribution, impact, belonging—the things we’re most yearning for!) your primary obstacle is not outside of you, it's within you.
It's actually a core belief you hold about yourself, about others, and about the possibilities of your life.
This is your inner glass ceiling.
And unless you learn to break free from it, no matter how hard you try, you're not going to be able to succeed.
I’ll explain why in just a moment, but first, I have a question for you:
Who or what are you blaming as the reason you can't be successful in particular areas of your life?
I’ve polled the women I’ve worked with over the past several years, and if you're like 85% of them, you’re blaming your circumstances (even though you might know better!).
You say to yourself: “I don't have enough time, I don't have money. I don't have enough education.”
“There's no good men out there.”
“The economy is bad.”
“People don't want to spend money on coaching services.”
And while there might be some truth to these external constraints…
You’re never going to find your power by blaming your circumstances.
14% of the women I polled knew there was something internal that was creating their experience, but simply blamed it on some psychological shortcoming.
When you’re not successful socially or professionally, maybe you say things to yourself like, “I just have low self-esteem.”
Or when you sabotage yet another relationship opportunity, you might think, “Oh, there are my father issues or my mother issues coming up again.”
Many of us kind of know where our patterns started and explanations for why we have many of the issues we do, but none of that analysis allows us to liberate ourselves from those limiting patterns and issues.
The bottom line is that you’re never going to find your power by blaming.
The truth is that life isn't happening to you, even though this is perpetually how it feels…
Life is responding to you.
Your core beliefs and assumptions about who you are or what is or isn't possible, create the ways you show up in your life day after day.
And you are probably showing up in ways that generate evidence that reinforces the truth of these stories.
Life and other people don’t mirror and match your beliefs, they mirror how you show up.
The problem is that in the areas where you’re struggling to be successful—love, creativity, career—you’re actually showing up from the parts of you that are wounded or stuck in these old stories of your powerlessness, non-possibility and limitation.
You can't attract love with a deep, inner sense of being unlovable…
You can't generate success on top of a deep feeling of being unworthy…
And you can't make an impact on the world if you secretly fear you have nothing worthwhile to contribute…
There's absolutely no faking it, and here’s why:
Those feelings lead to the ways you show up and the actions you take in your life.
The first step to unlocking your Feminine Power has to do with forging an unshakable connection between the weakest part of you—the part that feels powerless and is stuck in these old stories—and the part of you that knows better…
The part that is wise…
That has access to resources…
That has perspective…
The part of you that can show up powerfully for other people and offer support, counseling and insight.
When you discover how to make the connection between these two parts of you, you'll effortlessly be able to show up in ways that are aligned with a deeper truth about who you are…
And once you do that, your “inner glass ceiling” will completely shatter!
Within a matter of weeks, your life will begin to completely reorganize and other people will begin to reflect back to you the strong and capable person you truly are.
And it will be a little shocking at first, because you’ll realize that the old story you’ve been carrying around for decades was never even true.
Before I discovered my Feminine Power, I’d spent my whole life waiting to be discovered—waiting for other people to find their way into my world and intuit the value of what I had to contribute, and then respond to my needs and desires.
To break through my own inner glass ceiling, I had to give up this way of showing up and take responsibility for presenting myself in all my relationships and in the world.
I took the weaker part of me that had been stuck for so long and connected it to the deeper part of me that knew how much I had to offer…and I became responsible for generating my own visibility.
And then a really wild thing happened…
A few weeks later, I was hosting a dialogue series—our first “Women on the Edge of Evolution” conference—and the first person I had to interview was Dr. Jean Houston, co-founder of the Human Potential Movement and a truly amazing woman.
I was so in awe of her, but I knew my challenge was, as always, to show up in ways that were consistent with the truth of who I was.
So that meant letting go of my old way of playing small and simply mirroring people to try to please them.
I knew I had to be a gracious host, of course, and offer some of that mirroring and reflection, but I also needed to be fully engaged in the dialogue as my complete empowered self.
About halfway through the interview, Jean said, “Claire, I have to speak to you privately tomorrow. Call me on my private line.”
So of course I did, though I was a little nervous as I dialed the phone.
When she came on the line, she proceeded to reflect back to me what she’d seen during the previous day’s interview, and it turned out that she’d really seen me.
She said “Claire, you have a great destiny, a great calling of leadership in the empowerment of women, and I want to support you and stand with you. Come visit me in Ashland.”
So I did, and she proceeded to share with me a much larger vision for me than I was able to see or hold myself at that time.
Then she opened up her rolodex and called and emailed every powerful, influential woman leader she knew and encouraged them to join me in the “Women on the Edge of Evolution” conference.
And out of that, the platform for Feminine Power expanded as I created my company Evolving Wisdom that has led to greater and greater levels of impact and contribution.
All of this came out of that moment when I brought who I truly was into alignment with how I was showing up in the world…and everything changed.
Now, it's your turn.
I couldn’t generate my visibility, my contribution, or my impact from inside my old pattern, and neither can you.
And what's at stake in breaking through these barriers is nothing less than your entire life and destiny.
I want to invite you to attend my free “The Three Keys to Feminine Power” Online Training, where I’ll explain the *exact* process you need to go through to awaken your Feminine Power—that I’ve taught to over 500,000 women from more than 100 countries!
Kevin Gianni is co-founder and CEO of Annmarie Skin Care, an award winning skin care company that produces organic and wildcrafted facial oils, serums, and cleansers. Annmarie Skin Care has been one of Inc500’s Fastest Growing Companies and also was recognized as one of Inc500’s Best Workplaces. The company and products have been featured by many media outlets including The New York Times, Huffington Post, Forbes, and Organic Spa Magazine. He is also the author of Kale and Coffee: A Renegade's Guide to Health, Happiness, and Longevity published in 2015 by Hay House.